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A few days ago, I was having lunch with my mother and I said, "I'm sorry. I promise that everything I talk about for the next year won't be about the wedding."

She said, "Yes it will. And that's ok."

So ya'll will probably be plauged with it too.

Hopefully you take it with the same sort of stride my mom does.

We are, according to mywedding.com 352 days out. So while we have shit ton to do, it's not like we don't have time to do it.

A lot of things are naturally taken care of. The time of year was specifically picked because of the flowers. My mother's garden is glorious, and so are the wildflowers in April. Even more so when there's no drought. The ranch itself is ready for parties, so we don't have to worry about renting a hall or finding a chapel or anything like that. The next time we go up there, Graham and I will walk around to find the perfect place for the ceremony. We asked a friend of ours--the friend I asked "who is that guy?" when I first saw Graham at Burning Man nearly four years ago--to perform the ceremony, and she enthusiastically said yes. Graham is a DJ, and I expect that he'll want to dj a few sets of the music.

I told my father that he's in charge of the flowers, since he's always been so terrified of hiring florists. He's actually pretty good about the whole wedding, all things considered. I've talked about his wedding phobia before, but now that this is actual instead of theoretical he's calmed down. He and my mom and Graham and I had a powwow on Monday night about the general philosophy of the wedding, so we don't have four people heading off in different directions all at once. Once he realized that his worst nightmare isn't this, I think he's sort of getting into it.

There are of course a million decisions that need to be made. The guest list is a work in progress, but at least it's an effort that's been started. I have 62 family members to invite. Graham has 12 or so. After that, it gets complicated. We keep on remembering people, and then we have conversations about how to approach this party so it's a managable size. We were taken aback at the price of nice invitations, though we have enough graphic designer friends that we're sure that we can get better deals elsewhere with similar styles. Food will probably be an ongoing discussion until we hire a caterer, and even then we'll still talk about it. Drink is more or less decided upon, though who knows what will come up.

We both have two sisters and a brother, so we figured we'd have them stand with us during the ceremony. Plus, of course, whatever dogs are in the family (we asssume we'll probably have a new puppy before the wedding). Celosa will want to be in charge of something. And Chicken has volunteered to greet guests and help with plate clean up.

I know the dressmaker I want to talk to, and I think Graham has some pretty good ideas about what he wants to wear. I'm putting that off, though, until later on because I have some suspiciuos that my size will change between now and the wedding.

And yes, this is rambling, but who thought I wouldn't ramble about this???


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Apr. 28th, 2011 11:13 pm (UTC)
Yay getting hitched! There are several folks in the community that cater, if you want to go that way, and Mary J. is a party planner, if you want to get some help on that front. Her website is http://thesimplifiers.com/ and I am sure she could at least make recommendations about what caterers are good to work with, etc. Squeee, I love weddings!
Apr. 29th, 2011 02:46 pm (UTC)
Ooh, I may pick your brain next month about caterers. Graham is an event planner by trade, so I imagine he'll pick up the bulk of the detail stuff (he's already starting production grids in his head), but a third brain is never a bad idea.
Apr. 29th, 2011 02:48 pm (UTC)
I would be more than happy to help out any way you need!
Apr. 29th, 2011 02:10 am (UTC)
i'm squeeful at the rambling! *happy heart hugs*
Apr. 29th, 2011 03:50 am (UTC)
i am looking forward to the wedding rambling! (and yes, i'm the kind of person who loves looking at weddings, and will likely flip over to the English celebrations tomorrow. after saying all this, i've been married at courthouses, twice. heh.)

i can hardly wait to see the progress pictures of you and choosing dresses, and shoe talk, and flower talk,, all of it. yay for weddings!! :)
Apr. 29th, 2011 02:16 pm (UTC)
While my wedding was obviously a very different affair than yours will be (as it should be), one thing they have in common is that they're not cookie-cutter.

If you need help with anything at all, please don't hesitate to ask. Even if you just need to vent.

I'm beyond ecstatic for you!!
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