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Different strokes.

I was in a conversation earlier today with a bunch of people I know through work only. We tend to talk about benign things, as our relationship is one forced upon us by our jobs rather than genuine intrest in each other. This isn't to say that I don't like these people, or even enjoy their company, but I probably wouldn't choose to be friends with all of them outside of the artificial social environment we are all in together.

In these sorts of conversations, I sometimes forget how outside the mainstream I can be.

For example, I was talking about the construction of Whole Foods on the corner of West Dallas and Waugh, which well within walking distance from my house. At 49,000 sqft, it will be a little smaller than the 80,000 sqft flagship store, but it will be larger than the closest store on Kirby. And it will feature some of the amenities in the flagship, like the various prepared food stations where you can eat in the store.

None of the people in the group had been to the Flagship, and as I was describing it, I said something along the lines of, "It's so nice, you could go on a date there." As I was saying this, I was thinking of a time that Graham and I pretty much went on a date there.

One of the people in the group said, "maybe a first date, but none after that." And I tried to explain that maybe just foodies would enjoy that sort of experience. He continued, "I can tell you, if I'd taken my wife to Whole Foods on a date, I'd be married to someone else."

The conversation moved on after that, and I was left thinking that maybe I'm the weird one for thinking that one could have a good time--maybe even a romantic one--with one's partner at a grocery store. And yes, I am weird in my life choices and in the things that I enjoy. But then so is everyone. I definitely wouldn't choose to be with someone like the guy who was commenting.

But then I thought a little more about it, and I thought, I think I have a better life if I can find joy in something as mundane as grocery shopping. I think I have an amazing partner if we can find romance in the appliance section of Home Depot (we find ourselves kissing whenever we wander in that section of the box store). Maybe I'm easy to please. Maybe my partner and I don't really care about where we are as much as we care about that the fact that we're with each other. Maybe we can find romance and happiness together because we are a little weird together.

I'm glad my colleague and his wife are married. I'm glad that they found joy in each other. I hope that my colleage continues to know what makes his wife happy. And I'm really glad that I have nothing at all to do with it.

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raithen
Apr. 7th, 2010 11:30 pm (UTC)
I had a standing Friday night date (and yes, it was a DATE date) to go grocery shopping with the man I loved while we were in University. We'd get groceries in his truck (I didn't have a car), and then load our respective cupboards and fridges. And we'd end up back at one of our places. Sometimes with a stop at the pub, but more often than not, we'd just let the grocery store be the romance. And it made us both happy.

In other words: I am so glad you have graham, and I find your colleague's approach the different one -- but I am glad he too found joy. If every one were the same, what a boring world it would be!
carlamlee
Apr. 8th, 2010 01:57 am (UTC)
Maybe we can find romance and happiness together because we are a little weird together.

Yes, this. I love that you two find romance and happiness and weirdness together. And while it's a good thing your colleague and his wife find joy together, I think I much prefer the kind of joy that includes a little weirdness, too.
lietya
Apr. 8th, 2010 02:20 am (UTC)
That's really sweet. Like everyone else, I think you and Graham's quirky approach is the more appealing. :)

Amusingly enough, we went to Whole Foods together on Tuesday and it was certainly romantic and entertaining. We've been married ten years and we have never had a [weekly] grocery shopping trip apart, too. That's its own kind of romance, albeit not the fancy starry-eyed kind.
cricketnyc
Apr. 8th, 2010 11:35 am (UTC)
Mike & I are the same way. One of our favorite "couple" things to do is explore new supermarkets and specialty stores and revisit old favorites. Yes, it's partly because we're foodies, but I like to think it's more because we love spending time together so much, it makes even the mundane a joy!

I'm so glad you have someone to be weird together with- it's really the best thing ever!!

(Apologies for any excessive schmoopiness- it's our anniversary, so I'm all giddy and stuff!)
samtosha
Apr. 8th, 2010 01:07 pm (UTC)
Mitch and I are of the same opinion, and we have fun damn near anywhere. It is a truly a joy and a gift. I am glad you and Graham are able to have such experiences :-)
badrahessa
Apr. 8th, 2010 01:28 pm (UTC)
romance , just like adventure and fun, is where you make it. It's also about the company you keep. I'm happy that you and G are "weird" together. It makes me smile just to think about it really.
momwolf
Apr. 8th, 2010 01:43 pm (UTC)
I Perfectly understand Romance in Grocery stores...and appliance stores....and lumber/hardware stores.....
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